Dreams – Leadership is a Choice #41

Jessica Soroky continues her series Leadership is a Choice.




Don’t stop dreaming just because you had a nightmare.

We all have our moments or pieces of our own versions of hell. Some moments are longer than others and some seem darker, more painful, or more intense than others. Some may even seem like they are never going to end.

Don’t give away your power to these moments. I know in the moment it may be hard to see the light or believe things can get better. Sometimes we even make it worse when we start to open our eyes and recognize that the hell we are in is our own creation and we are the only cause.

I’ve been there, many times, each instance a different level of pain. Many of those moments have been documented here for you to read. As my self-awareness grew it made the pain that much more unbearable, knowing I caused it was the perfect gateway to shame, amplifying the difficulty of the situation I was in.

What I have come to realize though is that if those moments of hell, of pain, stress and overwhelming weight were created by me they can therefore be brought to an immediate end by me.

How though? How do you choose to stop the pain, how do you make all the things that seem out of your control work for you again? – CHOICE.

The choice to stop allowing one nightmare to keep you from dreaming again.

In those moments don’t focus on the negatives, essentially giving your power away to it, use your power to dream again. If this situation that you are upset about was perfect or even just more ideal what would that look like?

Create that dream in your head and focus on it! Dream all day…don’t stop dreaming. If you do stop, stop only to forgive yourself for the current situation not being ideal. Don’t call it wrong, or bad – it’s just not optimal.

As you dream about the ideal start helping it become real. I read in the book “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne about a woman who was single and didn’t want to be. She looked around her life and realized she created a reality where only one person could exist. The closet was completely full leaving no room for the partner she so eagerly awaited. She continued to look around her reality and saw everywhere that she had not left room for anyone beside herself.

So to make the dream a reality she began to make physical room for that dream to come true. She cleaned out her closet, emptied drawers, and made space in the garage for another car.

Look now at the “hell” you are living in and ask yourself what can you change about reality today to make the dream you have in your head come true? Is it a physical change, a mental one – maybe even both?

Just because you are having a nightmare, don’t allow it to keep you from dreaming. There have been many nightmares where society and those I work with, am friends with, or am even related to, have told me what I dream of isn’t possible.

The worst thing I could do besides not dreaming at all is to allow other people’s limited viewpoints to affect my belief in myself. I know I am limitless – I know the dream in my head is possible because I have already seen so many of my dreams come true.

Are you going to choose hell or create your own heaven?


Jessica Soroky, CSM

IMG_3285Jessica is a Certified Scrum Master with over three years of practice in agile delivery and seven years of team leadership. She is also the youngest participant in The Leadership Gift™ Program and its growing worldwide community of leaders and coaches. After five years of nonprofit development through Nellie’s Catwalk for Kids, Jessica continues her leadership journey in state government, not-for-profit, and private sector leadership studies.


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