How to Be Successful — Let’s Discover What You Really Want and Get It

how to be successfulHow to be successful starts with this question: How do you define success?

What does success mean to you? What success do you want that only you can satisfy, and, how can The Responsibility Process™ help you?

The more clarity you have about what success means to you, the more passion you can release toward how to be successful. And, the easier it will be to stay in motion toward your goals in order to persevere and pursue challenges.

For instance, when I felt that teaching people about personal responsibility was my calling, here is what I asked myself: “Can I do this until I’m 80? Am I willing to?” And my answer was, “Absolutely. 80 and beyond.”

How to Be Successful

There is no shortage of gurus and experts telling you how to be successful. Listen to what they say: that taking 100% personal responsibility is the first principle of success in any endeavor.

But none of them tells you how to do that. I — and many others — believe we at Partnerwerks™ can tell you. Why? We have that “how to” process for taking responsibility and taking charge of your life.

So how does this “how to” process, The Responsibility Process, support the claim that “personal responsibility is the first key to success”?

It might be self-evident to you and me that if we take ownership for our lives, we’re more likely to have the life and the impact that we desire.

The Responsibility Process shows us that there is a fine line between…

Being stuck & Breaking through
Losing & Learning
Coping & Growing
Failure & Success

If your version of how to be successful means some kind of achievement or accomplishment beyond the ordinary…

If it means reaching your goals…

If it means being happy…

If success means reaching some level of distinction…

If it means material stuff…

If it means material stuff along with happiness and a rich life…

…then how does what we learn by applying the The Responsibility Process support that?

how to be successfulBeing stuck & Breaking through

Breakthrough has been a common theme in practicing responsibility. To move from Blame to Justify is a breakthrough. And from Justify to Shame is a breakthrough. And from Shame to Obligation is a breakthrough. And from Obligation to Responsibility is a breakthrough.

And getting stuck is extremely easy to do.

Losing & Learning

And there’s the same fine line between losing and learning. Consider perseverance. We lose when we fall down and stay down. When we get up and try again we’re willing to persevere and to learn.

The Responsibility Process shows us that there is a fine line between losing and learning in terms of how we treat upsets, how we treat not getting what we want, and our willingness to persevere and to look for new distinctions and learn in the face of adversity.

Coping & Growing

There is also a fine line between coping and growing. Anything below the position of Responsibility in the model is coping.

I don’t know that there’s a strategy for coping your way to success. I think there’s a strategy for coping to get by, but I don’t know that you’re going to get success.

Failure & Success

The Responsibility Process also teaches us that there’s a fine line between failure and success. We learn more from failure (if we’re willing to pay attention to the lessons) than from success. And it is that learning that provides the avenue to success.

Denial & Ownership

Blame, Justify, Shame, Obligation, and Quit are all just shades of Denial. This suggests that The Responsibility Process does support the notion that “Personal responsibility is the first principle of success.”

We could have a responsibility chart with just two words on it: Denial below the line and Responsibility above the line.

Get Started With This 5-Minute Practice Tip

Define what success means to you. I’m talking about complete, thorough, unadulterated S-­‐U-­‐C-­‐C-­‐E-­‐S-­‐S. Not “good enough.” Not “acceptable.” But 100% Success.

Keep refining your definition until it feels complete. You may have to discern the difference between society’s notion of success that’s been sold to you through thousands of media impressions a day, and your spirit’s true desire.

I’ll leave you with this:

“Refuse to let your present results influence your thinking. Keep reminding yourself that you have a power within you that is superior to any condition or circumstance you may encounter enroute to your goal.”
-Bob Proctor

If you are interested in learning more about the The Responsibility Process™, see our 7-minute The Responsibility Process™ Overview Video.

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Christopher Avery, PhD, is a recognized authority on how individual and shared responsibility works in the mind and an advisor to leaders worldwide.

Posted in Leadership, Responsibility on 03/11/2014 07:00 am
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